According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
Pianist Always Leaves a Free Ticket for a Special Guest and Breaks Down in Tears the Day Someone Finally Takes It
Miley could listen to Ian’s music for hours. However, as she finds herself falling in love with the young pianist, she learns about Nora, a woman for whom he has been reserving a ticket at every performance. When the ticket is finally claimed, Ian is forced to confront his past.
Ian sat alone at the grand piano, the faint echoes of his notes filling the empty concert hall.
His fingers danced over the keys with precision, yet his movements carried a natural fluidity, as if the music were flowing straight from his soul.
Each note lingered in the air, a delicate thread weaving through the silence. His eyes, nearly closed, gave him the appearance of being lost in a dream.
At the entrance, Miley stood quietly, her breath catching each time Ian struck a particularly moving chord.
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She felt a warmth in her chest, an admiration that made her heart beat just a little faster.
The way he poured his heart into the music mesmerized her. She didn’t dare move, not wanting to interrupt the magic.
A soft shuffle of footsteps broke the silence. Rosa, the kind-hearted older woman who had worked at the theater for decades, approached Miley with a knowing smile.
“He’s good, isn’t he?” Rosa whispered, her voice barely audible, as if speaking louder would break the spell.
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Miley nodded quickly, then stumbled over her words.
“He’s very good… I mean, he plays very well. That’s what I meant.”
Rosa chuckled softly, her eyes twinkling.
“Don’t be shy, sweetheart. You’re young—this is the time for such feelings.”
Miley’s cheeks flushed a deep pink.
“You’ve got it all wrong. I just like how he plays, that’s all.”
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“Sure, sure,” Rosa teased, her smile widening.
As Ian’s final note faded into the air, he exhaled deeply, turning to look around the hall.
Spotting Rosa and Miley, he broke into a wide smile and waved, jogging over to them.
“Great performance, Ian, as always,” Rosa praised warmly.
“Thank you, Rosa,” Ian replied. Then, almost as an afterthought, he added, “Did you remember to set aside the ticket?”
“As always, Ian—one ticket for Nora,” Rosa said with a reassuring nod.
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Ian’s face softened, a look of quiet gratitude flickering across his features. “Thank you,” he said sincerely before heading out of the building.
Curiosity burned in Miley’s chest.
“What’s this ticket about?” she asked Rosa.
Rosa leaned closer, her voice lowering as if sharing a secret. “As long as I’ve known Ian, he always sets aside one ticket before every performance. It’s always for Nora.”
Miley frowned slightly.
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“Who is she? His mom? Sister? Girlfriend?” Her voice wavered with unease.
Rosa shrugged.
“I don’t know. She’s never come to any of his performances. But Ian keeps leaving a ticket for her, never explaining who she is.”
“That’s so sad,” Miley murmured, her heart aching for Ian.
“Yes, it is,” Rosa agreed. Then, with a small smile, she added, “But maybe it’s for the best—keeps a bit of mystery in his performances.”
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Miley nodded, but her thoughts lingered on the name: Nora. Who was she, and why did she hold such a place in Ian’s heart?
Miley stood frozen in front of Ian’s dressing room door, her palms damp with nervous sweat.
She wrung her hands together, muttering under her breath, rehearsing the words that refused to come out smoothly.
“Just say it. ‘Ian, do you want to go for a walk?’ It’s not that hard,” she whispered, but her voice trembled even in the quiet.
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Taking a shaky breath, she straightened her shoulders and stepped forward, her hand reaching for the door.
Before she could knock, it swung open. Ian stood there, his hand still on the doorknob, his surprised eyes meeting hers.
“Miley… Hi,” he said, his voice warm but puzzled.
“Hi, Ian,” she replied, her throat suddenly dry. She swallowed hard, her mind scrambling for the words she had practiced.
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“Is something wrong?” Ian asked, concern flickering across his face. “Did you need something?”
“No… I mean, yes. Yes, I did.” Miley’s voice was unsteady, and she hated how unsure she sounded.
“Listen, Ian, I’ve been wanting to ask you something for a long time.”
Ian tilted his head, curious. “Ask me what?”
She hesitated, then blurted out, “Would you like to… I mean, do you want to, after your performance…”
“Do I want to what?” he prompted gently.
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“Go to the park with me,” she said quickly, her cheeks flushing. “For a walk. With me.”
Ian stared at her for a moment, and she felt her heart thudding loudly in her chest.
He opened his mouth, then closed it, looking thoughtful. Finally, he sighed, and his expression turned somber.
“I’m sorry, Miley. I’d really like to, but I can’t.”
Her brow furrowed. “I don’t understand… Why not?”
“I can’t say,” he said softly, avoiding her gaze.
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“Is it because of Nora?” she asked, the name slipping out before she could stop it.
Ian flinched slightly, his jaw tightening.
“You don’t understand… I’m sorry, the performance is starting soon. I need to prepare.”
Before she could say anything else, Ian brushed past her, walking briskly down the hall.
Miley stood there, her heart sinking, tears threatening to spill as his words echoed in her mind.
She sat on the cold bench near the cloakroom, her face buried in her hands. Quiet sobs shook her shoulders as she tried to make sense of everything.
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Her tears blurred the familiar surroundings, but she barely noticed. All she could think about was Ian—his music, his distant smile, and his refusal.
From across the room, Rosa noticed the young woman and hurried over. Her soft footsteps were comforting in the otherwise silent space.
“Miley, dear, what happened?” Rosa asked gently, sitting beside her. Her warm hand rested lightly on Miley’s shoulder.
“I’m such a fool. A complete fool,” Miley blurted out between sobs. “Why did I ever think I deserved this?”
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Rosa frowned, her kind eyes filled with concern.
“Don’t say that! You’re a smart and beautiful young woman. Tell me what happened.”
Miley sniffled, wiping her face with her sleeve.
“I talked to Ian,” she began, her voice shaking. “I wanted to ask him out.”
“And what did he say?” Rosa asked carefully.
“He said he’d like to but couldn’t,” Miley said, her voice breaking.
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“He didn’t explain anything. He just walked away! It’s all because of that Nora! But she doesn’t even care about him! She doesn’t even come to his performances! And I do! I appreciate him!”
“Oh, sweetie,” Rosa said, her voice soothing. “Don’t be upset. It’s not the end of the world. You’ll find your true love.”
Miley shook her head, her tears slowing but her resolve hardening. “No!” she said firmly. “I’m going to fight for him.”
Before Rosa could respond, Miley stood, wiped her face, and marched toward Ian’s dressing room.
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Determination burned in her eyes as she reached the door. She knocked softly. No answer. Carefully, she turned the knob and stepped inside.
The room was neat, almost too neat, as though Ian had been trying to keep everything in perfect order to hide the chaos within.
Miley scanned the desk, her gaze landing on a leather-bound journal. Her hands trembled as she picked it up.
“This isn’t right,” she whispered to herself, but the thought of understanding Ian pushed her forward.
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She opened the journal and flipped through the pages, searching for the name that had haunted her thoughts: Nora.
Her breath hitched when she found it. The words leaped off the page:
“I’ve been invited to audition at the theater. They want to hear me play and evaluate my skills. I didn’t want to go—I didn’t see the point in embarrassing myself again—but Nora thought differently. She convinced me to go. I don’t know what I’d do without her…”
Miley’s eyes widened as she read. She turned another page:
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“I got the part! I don’t know how it happened, but they want me to play there. An agent even took my number and promised to set up performances for me. I can’t believe it—it’s all thanks to Nora!”
She kept flipping until she reached the final page. Her heart stopped when she saw the yellowed newspaper clipping glued to it.
The headline read: “After a tragic fire, 26-year-old Nora Gates has passed away…”
Miley’s hands fell to her sides as tears streamed down her cheeks. Now she understood.
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Nora wasn’t some distant, uncaring figure—she was Ian’s late girlfriend, the woman who had believed in him when he didn’t believe in himself.
Miley gently placed the journal back on the desk and left the room, her heart heavy with the weight of her discovery.
The theater buzzed with quiet anticipation as the lights dimmed and Ian prepared to take his place at the piano.
His heart raced, not from stage fright, but from Rosa’s words just moments earlier.
“Ian, someone finally took your ticket,” she had whispered.
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“What!? That can’t be!” he had exclaimed, his voice sharp with disbelief.
Rosa had only shrugged, her expression a mix of curiosity and amusement, before walking away.
The melody filled the room, soft yet powerful, like waves crashing and retreating.
Still, his eyes darted toward the reserved seat every few minutes. At first, it was empty, just as it always had been.
A pang of relief—or was it disappointment?—settled in his chest.
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Then, partway through a piece, he caught sight of someone sitting there. It was Miley.
His breath hitched as he stared, stunned.
Miley’s face, partially hidden behind the bouquet of flowers she held, looked at him with both fear and determination. Ian’s heart ached in a way he hadn’t felt in years.
Tears blurred his vision, but he kept playing, pouring every ounce of emotion into the music. By the time the final note rang out, the audience erupted into applause.
Miley waited for the crowd to settle before approaching him. She handed him the flowers, her voice trembling.
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“Ian, it was wonderful. Thank you for the performance.”
“You took the ticket,” he said, his voice low and uncertain.
“Yes… I’m sorry. It was for Nora, right?.”
Ian nodded slowly, his expression unreadable. “Yes.”
“But Nora is no longer here, Ian,” Miley said gently. “I know what she did for you, and I know how much you loved her.”
“You don’t understand,” he said, his voice cracking.
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“I do,” Miley replied, her eyes glistening. “I’m sorry, but I read a few pages of your journal. She wanted you to live, Ian. To follow your dreams. To be happy.”
Ian lowered his gaze, the weight of her words sinking in.
“But she’s gone…”
Miley stepped closer.
“But you’re still here. Do you think she would want your life to stop with hers?”
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For a long moment, Ian said nothing, the silence between them thick with unspoken pain. Finally, Miley placed the flowers in his hands.
“You’re a wonderful person, Ian. Please, allow yourself to be happy.”
She turned to leave, but his voice stopped her. “Wait!”
Miley spun around, her eyes wide.
“I want to take a walk with you in the park,” Ian said, his voice quiet but sure.
A small, hopeful smile spread across Miley’s face as she nodded.
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