According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
A Mysterious Box Washed Up on Shore—What Was Inside Left Everyone Speechless!
A enormous, worn box had washed up on the beach overnight, presenting an unexpected sight to the little coastal town’s residents as they awoke one summer morning. It was sealed tightly, and despite its age, it was covered in weird markings. The villagers congregated, their interest aroused. They debated for a while before deciding to open it there on the shore.
The crowd let out a collective gasp when the lid creaked open. A variety of antique objects, each more enigmatic than the last, were included inside the box. However, their interest was piqued by more than just the objects. Something that appeared to be nearly alive was nestled among the objects.
At the bottom rested a bright sphere that pulsed with a faint, strange light. The orb hummed, sending a low, resonant sound across the town as one of the bravest townspeople leaned out to touch it. Taking a step back, everyone wondered what they had unleashed.
The marks on the box began to light in time with the ball as it started to hover. Now, the townspeople had to confront a scary question: Was this the start of something even more dangerous, or had they just created a doorway to another world?
Had you been able to open the box? Comment below with your ideas!
Title: “A Hidden Cavern Kept a Mystery—What a Trekker Found Inside Was Amazing!”
An inexperienced hiker discovered a cave concealed by dense vegetation while out for a weekend trek on a distant mountain track. He chose to go inside after being intrigued by its darkness and the absence of any indications of previous exploration. He could never have guessed what he discovered in that wet, dark cave.
Something shimmering in the distance was caught by his flashlight beam as he cautiously ventured further into the cave. As he got closer, he noticed some prehistoric designs and symbols on the cave walls that had no relation to any known culture. The thing at the heart of the cave, though, was what really gave him the chills: a massive, finely carved stone door with an eerie aura around it.
There was a tiny vibration coming from the door, like it was waiting for something or someone. The hiker saw the carvings on the walls start to move as he stood there, creating a path that led straight to the door. The cave appeared to be alive and responding to his presence.
The hiker was confronted with a decision: should he proceed and investigate the mystery behind the door, or should he retreat and let it remain unanswered, realizing that he might have just unearthed a long-buried secret?
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