Some people dream, some don’t, or at least they don’t remember doing so.
But do dreams mean anything? Well, while people are convinced dreams are a form of messages received by forces we are unable to see or feel while wide awake, some scientists claim that dreams are simply a result of neuronal processes taking place within our brain.
While we are asleep, our brains are anything but.
Sometimes, dreams happen as a reflection of the day that passed, and other times they represent our fears. But what does it mean when we dream of a deceased person?
These dreams can be seen as part of the process of grieving or a transition that takes place in our own life. According to Healthline, it has to do with the latter.
These dreams are common when we experience certain changes, such as getting a new job, moving places, or meeting someone new.
What is most important than the dream itself, however, is how it make us feel.
Rubin Naiman, who has a Ph.D. in psychology, spent years of his life studying sleep patterns and habits. According to him, “Dream interpretation is about decoding the dream. It enlightens us and expands our awareness psychologically, [offering an] expansion of consciousness.”
So, dreaming of someone who is no longer alive may be related to the changes mentioned above and how those changes affect us.
”A lot of contemporary neuroscientists believe during REM sleep, the brain is involved in maintenance tasks, and it accidentally ‘kicks up dust,’ visually. At that end, dreaming is considered totally meaningless.” On the other hand he explains, “The other end is that dreaming is more substantial than waking. And we see this in ‘dream cultures,’ such as the indigenous people of Australia, who believe dreaming is intrinsic to our spiritual existence.”
Experts place these dreams into four categories.
- First, dreaming of a deceased person may be interpreted as the brain trying to work through the pain of the loss.
- If we hadn’t made amends with the deceased person before their passing, we may feel guilt and that might be the reason why they visit us in our dreams.
- According to Lauri Loewenberg, a dream analyst, we may be dreaming of a deceased person if we see some of their behaviors, such as substance abuse or else, in ourselves.
- There are experts who believe that these dreams represent a visitation from the deceased person, especially if we see them in a good condition in our dream, meaning they are well dressed or seem happy. If we feel good about the dream, it may mean that the deceased person says ‘Hello.’
No matter what we feel about dreams, the truth is that they offer something deep and meaningful. They often give us insight into the soul and our connection with the deceased person that we see in our dreams.
I’m Raising Another Person’s Child While Her Mother Enjoys Party Life
I fell in love with a pregnant woman, promising to help her raise her child, but she chose to have fun and eventually abandoned me. Years later, she returned to do something unimaginable.
I met Molly in college. She was stunning and often surrounded by the popular guys, particularly the football team. Although we became friends, my feelings for her were unreturned. Eventually, she started dating Tanner, the team captain, and I always felt she deserved better.
A few months later, Molly came to my house in tears. Tanner had broken up with her and quickly moved on with someone else. I tried to comfort her, but she was heartbroken. A month after that, she revealed life-altering news: she was pregnant.
When I learned that Tanner wanted nothing to do with the baby, I was furious. He urged her to terminate the pregnancy, which made me even angrier. Molly felt lost; she was in college and didn’t think she could handle being a single mom.
Without hesitation, I offered to marry her and help raise the baby. I didn’t care about my feelings for her; I just wanted to support her. Molly hesitated but eventually agreed, and we went to the courthouse with friends as witnesses.
We managed through the pregnancy, though it was challenging. I was excited to become a father, but Molly seemed increasingly unhappy. She missed her carefree college life. When our daughter, Amelia, was born, I fell in love with her immediately, and I embraced my role as her dad. Molly adapted better than I expected, and we formed a little family.
However, as the years passed, Molly’s discontent grew. When Amelia was five, Molly broke down and said she couldn’t do it anymore. She felt she had lost her youth and decided to leave, shocking me completely. Despite my attempts to reason with her, she packed her things and walked away, leaving me to care for Amelia alone.
I became a single father, which was harder than I imagined. Amelia cried often, missing her mother, but we eventually adjusted. Meanwhile, Molly enjoyed her freedom, frequently posting about her new life on social media, and it broke my heart to see her partying while I raised our daughter.
Years later, I learned Molly had rekindled her relationship with Tanner, the very man who had abandoned her when she needed support. Just when I thought we had moved on, Molly returned, demanding Amelia live with her and Tanner, claiming they were ready to be a family.
I was furious. I had raised Amelia all these years, and I was her true father. Molly threatened to take me to court for custody, and I felt trapped. My lawyers advised settling out of court, but I knew that Amelia belonged with me.
When the court date arrived, Amelia testified, saying I was her only father and that she didn’t want to live with her mother, who had left her. The judge listened, granting me full custody while allowing Molly visitation on weekends. I encouraged Amelia to forgive her mother and build a relationship, but she often reminded me that I was the best father she could have.
From this experience, I learned two important lessons: appreciate what you have, and recognize that some responsibilities require significant sacrifices. Molly threw away her family, only to discover that she couldn’t easily reclaim it.
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