Now don’t get me wrong, she wasn’t annoying me because I was a mean mother-in-law (MIL) who hated her. But because of her selfish question. It seemed I was expected to always be around. “I am going on a vacation to the Bahamas. I already bought the tickets and booked myself at a lovely hotel.”
My son and DIL exchanged surprised looks before staring at me as if I’d grown a second head. “This is so unlike you, mom. Who are you going with?” I rolled my eyes at George’s response. He’d somehow forgotten that before he had kids, I was jetsetting every few months!
“That’s not true my love. I used to travel all the time when my time was mine,” I replied a bit irritated. I couldn’t believe how clueless he’d become when it came to my life. “Well, where are we going to get someone to babysit the kids for free every day?”
I realized at that moment that I’d spoiled these two. “Your parents are a start, Sarah. Arrange play dates with your friends’ children or something, I don’t know,” I said in frustration. Why was I the one who had to figure out what THEY did with their own children?
It dawned on me how much I had made them dependent on me. It wasn’t my intention, I think I took the Gam-Gam role a bit too far, and I so loved my little munchkins! They gave me so much to live for. But I was tired and needed a break.
Without waiting for their response, which I anticipated would make me angry, I turned to leave. “I will send you the details of when I leave, where I’ll be staying, and when I’ll return. Toodles!” I heard them falling over themselves as they tried to catch up to my quick stride.
They were LITERALLY trying to get ME to tell THEM what to do with their children! But I was having none of it and quickly closed the door before rushing to my car and driving away. Yes, I felt like I was escaping and running away from my responsibilities and I HATED that feeling!
When I arrived home, my DIL had left several voice messages that I had no intention of listening to. My therapist was the one who made me realize I was overworked and needed some time off. I was oblivious to that as I continued stretching myself to my limits.
She, my therapist, knocked it into my head that I was overcompensating by trying to be the best MIL and grandmother while losing myself. I stuck to my promise and sent George and Sarah all the details of my travels as a courtesy.
The next few weeks were filled with Sarah trying to convince me to leave with the kids. When she wasn’t trying to do that, she tried to get me to stay and not leave. “I need to do this for ME, Sarah. You won’t understand,” I explained, trying to get her off my back.
If my DIL wasn’t the one pestering me, my son got in on it. But with the words of my therapist playing in my head, “Stick to your guns. You are doing this for YOUR well-being,” I remained resolute in my decision.
When the fateful day came, I announced my departure to my son and left. For two glorious days on vacation, I had nothing but massages, long beach walks, drank piña coladas, and enjoyed the sunsets!
On the third day, my mood was spoiled when I suddenly received a disturbing message from my DIL. “George is on his business trip, my parents have house repairs, and I’m going on MY retreat,” her text began.
“And you know what? It’s in the Bahamas!! Isn’t it amazing? We’re already boarding, I need you to watch the kiddos!” Annoyed is an understatement for what I was feeling! I couldn’t understand, so HER parents have repairs, and I have a vacation, so I can babysit the kids?!
I was MAD AS HELL! I was practically seething! This time I leaned on my own faculties and decided to teach her a lesson on mutual respect. When they pitched, I was my usual affectionate self to my grandbabies and hugged and kissed them.
I then spent an hour bonding with the pair while Sarah mumbled about how SHE had to MEDITATE tomorrow. But the next day, I got an irritated call from her. “WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON? WHERE ARE YOU?!” she had the nerve to demand.
All calm and relaxed as I had anticipated that type of response, I answered, “I’m at the spa, getting a massage. Why do you ask?” Sounding more frustrated, my DIL replied, “Why would you not answer your phone?!”
“The kids have been driving ME crazy, and I need a break!” I had finally had enough of her nonsense and took a deep breath before responding. “I hear you talking about what YOU need and want, but have you asked ME what my plans are?”
“Has it even occurred to YOU to find out if I WANT to babysit during MY vacation and time away?” I heard her gasp as she tried cutting in all respectful this time, saying, “Mrs. Thomas, I…” But I cut her off and continued my rant.
“Do you know what I am doing here, huh? Do you even CARE?” My voice went up a notch. “You receive what you deserve, Sarah. And maybe it’s time for YOU and George to learn a lesson about respect!”
My DIL was stunned into silence. She realized for the first time in two years the depth of her imposition. Her voice had softened as she stammered, “I… I didn’t think… I just assumed…”
I wasn’t done with her as I replied, “That’s exactly the problem we have, you assumed and KEEP assuming. I love my grandkids, but I also NEED my own time.”
“This was MY vacation. It’s time I took off so I can recuperate and have some self-care.” I could hear from the silence on the other side that Sarah was feeling guilty. She was FINALLY understanding where I was coming from.
“I’ve given you and Georgie two long years of my love and dedication.” I shared how I’d stretched myself because I wanted to be a good MIL and grandmother. I also wanted to be there for them as they transitioned into parenthood.
But then I went too far as they kept demanding more and more of my time. I confessed to my DIL that I started feeling burnt out. Yet, because I hadn’t felt the feeling before, I didn’t realize what was happening to me.
A friend I confided in suggested I see her therapist. That’s when it finally clicked that I was wearing myself thin. I was quite upset as I ended my rant by stating, “Next time, respect MY plans and ask, don’t just assume I’m here to serve your convenience!”
Sarah paused for a long time on the other end of the line and I was about to say something when she finally sighed. It appeared she finally understood the weight of my words and where I was coming from.
“You’re right. I’m sorry. I should have asked. I’ll make other arrangements,” my DIL replied, sounding defeated. I won’t lie, I felt a tinge of regret for how I approached things, but decided it was something that had to be done.
After all, as they say, people treat the way you teach them to. I thanked her for understanding. “Now, I’m going to enjoy the rest of my vacation. I suggest you find a way to enjoy yours too, without relying on me.”
I didn’t wait for a response before hanging up and felt the most serene wave of satisfaction! I had stood up for myself and drew boundaries that taught my DIL a valuable life lesson! I happily returned to my massage, content that I would not be disturbed anymore.
I felt the stress melt away from my body as the masseuse kneaded longstanding knots that had built up over the years. I was pleased to know that I had managed to reclaim my well-deserved break.
Unfortunately, Mrs. Thomas isn’t the only person who’s had to take measures to teach people important lessons. Mark’s mother kept nagging his pregnant wife to the point that the younger woman had to leave. Not wanting his mother to miss her mistake, Mark found a clever way to teach the parent about respect and boundaries.
Christopher Reeve’s son lost both his parents by age 13
Numerous accounts exist of children who have grown up to resemble their famous parents.
A number of famous children make us gasp in disbelief when we look at them, including the twin daughters of Michael J. Fox, the teenage daughter of Julia Roberts who looks just like her, and even the grandson of Elvis Presley.
Will, the 29-year-old son of Christopher Reeve, is striving to carry on his father’s inspirational legacy in addition to being a near-perfect replica of his father.
Sadly, at the age of thirteen, Christopher Reeve’s youngest son had to cope with the loss of both of his parents.
A scene from the 1978 movie “Superman,” starring Christopher Reeve as Superman. (Photo via Getty Images))
How does a hero appear?
Growing up in the late 1970s and early 1980s, Christopher Reeve was a hero to millions of people.
When the DC comic book character Superman first appeared on television in 1978, he won a BAFTA for Most Promising Male Newcomer.
Superman II, Superman III, and Superman IV: The Quest for Peace are the three further superhero films in which the endearing and attractive actor starred.
We will always remember the well-known superhero that goes by his name.
But in addition to being an actor, Christopher Reeve (born in New York in 1952) was also a screenwriter, producer, director of films, campaigner, and horseback rider.
Accident involving Christopher Reeve
Christopher Reeve’s life would forever alter on May 27, 1995.
The well-liked actor suffered a spinal cord injury after falling off his horse Buck at an equestrian competition in Culpeper, Virginia.
The Hollywood actor became wheelchair-bound and paralyzed from the neck down, shocking millions of fans and his family.
Christopher’s mother pleaded with the medical staff to discontinue his mechanical ventilation and allow him pass away, according to the actor’s foundation.
The actor would have died instantly if he had fallen one centimeter farther to the left, according to information subsequently disclosed by the New York Times. In contrast, Christopher would have most likely only sustained a concussion if he had landed slightly to the right.
Christopher became quadriplegic while he was just 42 years old. For the remainder of his life, he needed a portable ventilator and was confined to a wheelchair.
Physicians promptly announced that there was little chance of recovery, telling Reeve in particular that it would be “impossible” for him to regain any movement.
In the early days of his hospital stay, Christopher Reeve was incoherent and highly drugged. He was going through hell. He believed his life had been ruined after learning the terrible diagnosis from the doctor.
In an attempt to spare his family from further hardship, he suggested to his wife Dana Morosini that they might as well end the relationship.
“I will support whatever you want to do because this is your life and your decision,” she said, her eyes welling with sorrow. But I want you to know that no matter what, I’ll be by your side for the entire journey. You remain who you are. I also adore you.
Reeve had the option to give up, but he chose to dedicate himself to activism and founded the Christopher Reeve Foundation with his loving wife Dana. Later on, the Christopher & Dana Reeve Foundation became its new name.
Additionally, the pair co-founded the Reeve-Irvine Research Center, which advocates for stem cell research and patients of spinal cord injuries.
To ensure his son had a happy childhood, Christopher Reeve also made the decision to do everything in his power.
In a 2016 interview with PEOPLE, Will talked candidly about his incredible upbringing, which he described as “completely typical.”
Will recalled them with affection, saying, “They were the ones who told me to go to bed, eat my broccoli, and turn off the TV.” “It was a totally normal childhood, but I understand that not every child experiences seeing their dad on the magazine at the checkout aisle when they go to the grocery store.”
Will also recalled the day his father showed him how to use a wheelchair to ride a bike. “I didn’t think it would succeed. “I’m scared, but I can hear my dad saying, ‘Steady, steady, left, right, left, right,’” he remarked. “By the third lap, I’m grinning and waving at my dad, and he’s grinning, too.” That had great meaning for him. I would race in a wheelchair later on. He would permit me to triumph.
Regretfully, just as they were reassembling everything, Will’s father passed away.
Death of Christopher Reeve
Christopher Reeve has numerous health issues even as a small child. His breathing was hampered by allergies and asthma.
He also discovered at the age of sixteen that he had alopecia areata, which was the reason of his hair loss. During his acting career, Christopher managed to manage the condition; nevertheless, upon becoming disabled, he made the decision to completely cut off all of his hair.
Christopher had multiple infections treated in the early 2000s. He was receiving treatment for an infected pressure ulcer that was resulting in sepsis in October 2004. While he was watching his son Will play hockey on October 9, Christopher had a heart attack that same evening as a result of receiving medication for his sickness.
The physicians were at a loss for what to do once he went into a coma.
At 52 years old, Christopher Reeve passed away on October 10, 2004.
Reeve’s death was attributed to a medication response, according to both Mrs. Dana and the doctors.
At Hartsdale, New York’s Ferncliff Cemetery, his corpse was cremated, and his ashes were dispersed.
Death of the wife
Despite never having smoked, Dana, Christopher’s spouse and caretaker, was also diagnosed with lung cancer only ten months after her husband’s passing. But in the early years of her career, Dana used to sing and perform in smokey pubs and hotel lobbies, claims Christopher P. Andersen.
On April 11, 1992, American singer and actress Dana wed actor Christopher Reeve in Williamstown, Massachusetts.
Dana, 44, passed away on March 6, 2006, following several months of fighting a malignant lung malignancy.
Willard Reeve
William Elliot “Will” Reeve, the son of Christopher and Dana, was born on June 7, 1992. Regretfully, Will was abandoned as an orphan when he was just 13 years old.
Nevertheless, Will has grown up to resemble his father, even though he has mostly avoided the spotlight up to this point.
After completing his schooling, Will is pursuing a successful career in the sports press profession.
Will, who is now 29 years old and has been handsomely bequeathed by his father, looks just like him more than ten years later.
However, what really stands out about this young man is that he is carrying on the excellent work that his parents began.
Despite the possibility of a downward spiral or mental instability following such a traumatic experience at such a young age, Will was able to avoid going down this path because of his strong moral principles and the support of his parents.
“A hero is an ordinary individual who finds the strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles,” my father once said. I use this quote often to honor his legacy and instill his timeless spirit in a new generation,” he added in a Daily Mail article.
Will told his parents he would succeed in his career and now contributes to ESPN’s SportsCenter. He and his father both enjoy sports.
After serving as a production assistant and intern at “Good Morning America” while attending Middlebury College, he was hired.
He carries on the job his parents began, searching for novel treatments and spearheading the foundation’s fundraising efforts for additional technological advancements that will benefit individuals with spinal injuries.
In an interview with CBS News in 2018, Will discussed a letter he had written to himself following the death of his parents.
“I have both bad and good news to share. I’ll start with the negative because, no matter what, you always need to be aware of the full picture. And no, it won’t change. You’re at the lowest moment in your life, which is the bad news. You’ve just said your last goodbye to Mom and you’re in a hospital room in New York City,” he wrote. “You’re thirteen years old.” She is forty-four. carcinoma of the lung. Never indulged in smoking. Gone, like Dad, who passed away a year and a half ago, when you were at your lowest point. You’ve reached a new low, where you feel scared, perplexed, and incredibly depressed. However! The good news is that this is the bottom. You’re heading straight up, which is the only direction there is.
How motivating is Will Reeve, a young man?
Even though he lost both of his parents when he was quite young, he honors their memories every day with his accomplishments and attitude.
I’m sure his parents were quite proud of the progress this young man has made. He truly is an inspiration.
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