Breastfeeding is a natural part of motherhood, and many mothers find themselves feeding their babies in public when the need arises. One young mother experienced this firsthand, but she had no idea that someone was secretly filming her during this intimate moment. When she discovered the footage, she had plenty to say about it. Read on to find out more…
Izabele Lomax, a woman from Maryland, was going about her day on social media when she stumbled upon a video that made her heart drop. Upon closer inspection, she realized it featured her breastfeeding in public.
The clip she encountered was a screenshot of a prior post. A stranger had recorded Lomax nursing her baby and criticized her for not covering up while doing so. The post, shared in a breastfeeding support group, included a caption expressing disbelief that another woman would take a video of a mother feeding her child and post it online.
Lomax felt a strong connection to the post, as it showed her in a vulnerable moment. “I was like:, ‘That’s me!”” she recalled, shocked to learn she had been filmed without her consent while enjoying a day at the beach.
The person who posted the video claimed they weren’t trying to shame breastfeeding mothers but rather criticized Lomax for not being more discreet. They expressed discomfort at the idea of exposing their son to topless women in public spaces.
In the video, Lomax was shown sitting under an umbrella at the beach, nursing her infant without realizing she was being recorded. The carefree day she had shared with her fiancé, baby, and parents took a turn for the worse when someone decided to judge her actions.
Not one to remain silent, Lomax took to social media to address the situation directly. In her video response, she pointed out that the woman had walked by her several times and could have chosen to speak to her instead of filming her without her knowledge.
Lomax emphasized that she would not have stopped breastfeeding her child, and she questioned why the woman felt the need to sexualize breastfeeding in front of her own young son. “If you have time to record me and post about it on Facebook, you could have taken a moment to educate your son about breastfeeding”, she said in her impassioned response.
Support for Lomax poured in from her followers, leading the original poster to delete the video. Many commenters expressed disbelief at the woman’s decision to publicly shame another mother for breastfeeding. One commenter remarked: “Who does this lady think needs protection? Just explain to your kid that the woman is feeding her baby, and move on”.
Others noted that the baby’s head covered any nudity that might have been visible, reinforcing the idea that there was nothing inappropriate about the situation. This incident sparked a significant discussion, highlighting the strong opinions surrounding public breastfeeding. What are your thoughts on this situation? Share your comments!
Straight Family Man Prefers To Wear Skirts And Heels As He Believes ‘Clothes Have No Gender’
Mark Bryan is a robotics engineer who has been married for 11 years and has a daughter. He identifies as straight and chooses to dress unconventionally. Bryan is an American living in Germany, and he doesn’t believe that fashion has to be gendered. You can find Bryan wearing a skirt and heels to work or out anywhere else he goes on any given day.
Bryan said he doesn’t like how limited men’s choices are in the fashion department, especially when it comes to office attire. Men’s pants only come in a few colors, mostly black, gray, dark blue and the occasional pinstripe, and cuts.
The stylish dresser believes that if women are allowed to wear pants, men should be able to wear skirts and dresses as well. Bryan likes how skirts come in many styles and patterns – and many more colors – unlike men’s clothing.
Bryan prefers to mix traditional gender looks by wearing masculine attire on his top half, like a blazer and tie, and traditionally feminine attire on the bottom half. He will typically wear a pencil skirt and four-inch heels on the bottom.
Wearing high heels is no problem for Bryan. He first learned how to do it when his college girlfriend asked him to wear high heels while dancing with her so that they were on the same level. They continued this for over a year.
Bryan doesn’t let stereotypes or assumptions stop him from dressing in a way that brings him joy. He challenges expectations and does so unapologetically. Keep reading to hear what Bryan has to say about his fashion choices.
Bryan has a very clear idea about how he likes to dress. He told Bored Panda: “To me, clothes have no gender. I prefer skirts to dresses. Dresses don’t allow me to mix the genders. I prefer a ‘masculine’ look above the waist and a non-gendered look below the waist. It’s all about clothes having no gender.”
He continued: “I am old enough to remember that in school, the girls could not wear pants. Pants have now become a non-gendered article of clothing. So why can’t skirts and heels be non-gendered? Besides, men wore heels before women did. Maybe not today’s stiletto-style heels, but men did wear heels before women.”
Bryan is correct about that. High heels can look back on a long history. Although historians and archaeologists cannot date their invention clearly, they have been around at least since the 10th century. And they were not a fashion statement at first. No, the first recorded use of high heels was eminently practical: the Persian cavalry wore boots with heels, called a kalash or galesh, that made it easier for them to keep their feet inside their stirrups. This is, by the way, the same reason why cowboy boots have a small heel as well!
Since owning a horse was a sign of wealth, only well-off men could afford to wear these high-heeled boots. The use of them slowly spread across Europe, and high heels heels became one of the fashion signs of rich noblemen or traders. In fact, following the Great Schism of the Christian Church in the 11th century, even the pope wore high heels.
It wasn’t until several hundred years later that fashion slowly changed. During the 18th century, cultural concerns in Europe came up about the distinction between males and females and talk about what men and women should wear arose. This is the point in time where the belief that fashion is something effeminate and frivolous that “real men” shouldn’t care about hails from. Due to these changing beliefs, men largely abandoned high heels heels, as they were seen as impractical and mere accessories.
Bryan is one of the examples of how high-heels are slowly coming back as an accepted form of footwear for men. Although the engineer champions the option of wearing high-heeled shoes for men, he understands many people will look twice when they see him. He compares his style choices to someone who chooses to dye their hair bright colors. He explained:
“Take a person with bright green hair. Green hair is not normal. You look up and see this person, your mind tells you it’s a person with green hair, you think to yourself, that’s odd or interesting, then you go back to do what you were doing and don’t give it another thought. I believe this is the same when people see me in a skirt and heels.”
Bryan doesn’t have to struggle to find skirts and heels that fit him either. He wears a size 8 in skirts, and with smaller feet for a man, his shoe size in heels is 8.5. If you know a man who is considering trying out wearing heels and skirts too, Bryan suggests starting with a lower heel until you feel more comfortable walking in high heels.
What do you think of Mark Bryan’s style choices? Do you know any men who would try walking in high heels? Let us know, and be sure to send this along to your friends and family.
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