When Millie Smith and Lewis Cann found out they were expecting a baby, they were overjoyed. As there was a history of twins in Millie’s family, she had a strong feeling that she was going to give birth to two little ones, and her instincts were right. The ultrasound confirmed that she was indeed expecting twins, but the doctors told them that one of the babies had a very small chance of survival.
ragically, one of their daughters was born at 30 weeks with anencephaly, a serious condition that affects the development of the brain and spinal cord. They learned that their precious baby had only moments or hours to live.
Knowing this, Millie and Lewis wanted to give her a name before they said goodbye. They chose the name Skye. Millie explained: “We felt she needed a name before she arrived. Knowing she wouldn’t be with us for long, I wanted her to have a name in those fleeting moments”.
The name “Skye” symbolized a connection to a place they could always remember when they looked up to the sky. “We held Skye close as she died. It was the most heartbreaking moment of our lives, but I’m proud that she fought to spend that time with us.” Skye only lived for three hours, a brief time filled with love while her parents cherished her beauty and presence.
After her death, Millie and Lewis were supported by a “bereavement midwife” and given access to a “Daisy Room”, a special room where parents could spend time with their baby before and after death. However, after Skye was gone, her memory seemed to fade; no one spoke of her, leaving Millie feeling like her daughter had never existed, which made her angry.
“Most of the nurses knew what had happened, but as the weeks went by, people stopped mentioning Skye. Other families around me had no idea about our loss”, Millie recalls.
While her other daughter, Callie, was still in the NICU, another mother who knew nothing about Millie’s situation remarked how lucky she was not to have twins. “None of the other parents knew about Skye, and that innocent comment almost broke me. I left the room in tears but didn’t have the heart to explain”, Millie said. “A simple sticker could have prevented this.”
This experience inspired Millie to design a sticker for incubators to mark the loss of one or more babies in a multiple birth. She chose butterflies to symbolise the ‘flown away’ babies and used the colour purple, which is suitable for any gender.
From this idea grew the Skye High Foundation, which promotes the Purple Butterflies initiative and helps raise awareness in hospitals around the world. The foundation also offers a range of purple butterfly merchandise.
“Although I can’t prevent these situations from occurring, I believe the more support we can provide through initiatives like the stickers, the better it will be for others who suffer this loss. It’s an incredibly tough journey”, said Millie. Today, her surviving daughter Callie is seven years old.
David Beckham Explains Why He Kisses His 11-Year-Old Daughter on the Lips
Kissing your child on the lips can potentially lead to cavities, trigger allergic reactions, and blur their understanding of personal boundaries. Despite the potential risks, celebrities like David Beckham persist in sharing pictures of themselves kissing their children on the lips. Although they receive criticism for this practice, many parents see it as a harmless way to express affection.
It’s his way of expressing affection.
The former Manchester United star faced criticism from some fans after sharing a photo of himself kissing his daughter on the lips. However, he firmly believes that this gesture is an innocent way to express love for one’s child.
“I’m very affectionate with the kids. It’s how I was brought up and Victoria, and it’s how we are with our children,” he said. “We want to show our kids love, and you know, we’re very affectionate with them,” he added.
He showers all of his kids with love.
Beckham has frequently posted selfies on his Instagram account, showing affectionate kisses on the lips with his 11-year-old daughter Harper. He has mentioned that he engages in this affectionate gesture with almost all of his children.
“I got criticized for kissing my daughter on the lips. I kiss all my kids on the lips. Brooklyn, maybe not. Brooklyn’s 18, he might find that a little bit strange,” he previously shared.
He always puts his kids first.
Beckham became a father at a young age of 23. Despite his successful career and demanding schedule, he consistently prioritizes his family and ensures he makes time for them.
“I think you mature quicker with kids. You have more important things in life to worry about than your everyday worries, and life becomes all about the kids. I think that’s what you learn as a father, you become less important, and it’s all about your children,” he said.
He supports his kids in pursuing their dreams.
According to Beckham, none of his four children have expressed a desire to pursue a career in his footsteps, and he is completely supportive of their choices. “None of my children at the moment want to be a footballer. That’s okay, because you don’t want to force anybody into doing anything. It’s important to show kids love, support, encouragement. We’ve always supported our kids in whatever they want to do,” he said.
Just like David Beckham, many celebrities often share pictures of themselves kissing their children on the lips, but psychologists issue a warning against it. They caution that kissing a child on the lips may confuse their sense of personal boundaries and even encourage them to engage in similar behavior with other adults.
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