I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.
I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).
I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).
Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.
My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.
It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.
She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….
I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.
Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.
Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.
She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.
I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.
Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.
Starving ‘Stray’ Pup Sits Patiently At Restaurant Door, Waits For Food
Everyone walked by her as she lay on the sidewalk until one person changed everything!
Amid the relentless downpour, a stray dog with a thick, curly coat roamed the desolate urban streets in a relentless search for food. Her wanderings eventually brought her to the welcoming doorstep of a local restaurant, capturing the immediate attention of the staff inside. As she stood there, soaked to the bone and gazing intently at them, her eyes conveyed a poignant plea for just a small helping of food or even mere scraps. Her appearance not only surprised but deeply moved the restaurant team, who were unprepared for such a heart-tugging encounter.
The restaurant team was immediately moved by the sight of the tiny, bedraggled pup. Despite wearing a collar, her condition suggested she had been surviving alone for quite some time. Responding with swift compassion, they fed her, and she quickly polished off every last bit of the meal, indicating her dire hunger from days spent unfed.
The following day, she returned, demonstrating her newfound trust. She waited until the premises were quiet and approached again for what had now become her expected evening meal. The staff happily obliged, serving her another hearty portion, which she gratefully accepted.
Maintaining a respectful distance, yet clearly more comfortable, she ventured inside to wait as her meal was prepared. Though she remained wary of physical contact, her actions spoke volumes about her growing reliance on this new-found sanctuary.
After enjoying her meal, she departed, only to return the very next morning, eagerly anticipating another serving. This pattern continued, and the pup became a regular fixture at the restaurant. Concerned for her well-being, the staff decided to follow her one evening, learning that she roamed the local area nightly in search of a safe spot to rest.
Local market employees recognized the dog, noting she had been a fixture in the neighborhood for months without a stable home. Moved by her resilience and repeated visits, the restaurant team resolved to provide her with a permanent solution. After her next meal, they spent considerable time gently encouraging her to stay longer. Eventually, they managed to secure a leash around her, marking a pivotal moment in her life.
From that day forward, the decision was clear. The once-stray pup would now spend her nights in the warmth of a home, with days passed as a cherished companion at the restaurant. Her life was transformed by the simple acts of kindness from the restaurant staff, who not only fed her body but also nurtured her soul.
Now a beloved member of the restaurant family, she no longer has to worry about her next meal or a place to sleep. Her days are filled with joy, comfort, and the occasional cuddle, a stark contrast to her previous life of uncertainty and solitude.
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