I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.
I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).
I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).
Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.
My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.
It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.
She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….
I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.
Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.
Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.
She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.
I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.
Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.
I Accidentally Saw My MIL in a Nightshirt on a Phone, but to My Shock, It Wasn’t Her or Her Husband’s Phone
I Accidentally Saw My MIL in a Nightshirt on a Phone, but to My Shock, It Wasn’t Her or Her Husband’s Phone
Jocelyn is enjoying a big family holiday when she accidentally sees racy pics of her MIL on a phone. As if that wasn’t bad enough, the owner of the phone then comes looking for the device, and it’s the last person she expected!
There are some things you just can’t unsee. I had one of those moments recently, during an annual family get-together at my in-laws’ cottage.
A bunch of us gather here every summer, including my parents and other relatives. We usually have a great time, but this year, I accidentally exposed a huge secret. The fallout almost destroyed us all.
A cabin on a lakeshore | Source: Pexels
So there I was, curled up in the old armchair in the corner of the living room, trying to fend off a nasty headache. Everyone was either cleaning up after dinner or preparing for our traditional board game night.
We had a rule: all phones went into a small wooden box during game time to ensure we all stayed present. The box was sitting right next to me, and I was using the lull to rest a bit after the games.
That’s when it happened.
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One of the phones in the box buzzed. No big deal, right? But then it buzzed again. And again. Curiosity got the better of me.
I reached for the buzzing phone, trying to remember if we had any rules about checking messages. Pretty sure we didn’t, so I figured it couldn’t hurt.
The screen lit up as I picked it up. The wallpaper was a generic sunset, nothing special. But the notifications… I wish I hadn’t looked.
Woman staring at a phone in shock | Source: MidJourney
There, right on the screen, was a photo of my MIL, Mandy, in lingerie. My heart skipped a beat. I mean, she’s a classy lady, always so put-together, and there she was, posing like a Victoria’s Secret model.
I thought for sure it was Dean, my FIL’s phone. They’ve been married forever, so maybe they had their ways of keeping things spicy. Gross, but whatever.
But before I could even process that thought, my dad walked into the room, looking like he’d lost something. He went straight to the box, glanced inside, and frowned.
A mature man frowning | Source: MidJourney
“Hey, have you seen my phone?” he asked, scanning the room.
I held up the buzzing phone, trying to keep my face neutral. “This one?”
He grinned. “Yeah, that’s mine.”
Wait, what? My brain couldn’t keep up. My dad’s phone? I felt like I was in a bad soap opera.
He grabbed the phone from my hand and his eyes widened as he saw the screen. Without another word, he stormed into the kitchen. I followed him, feeling like I was floating outside my own body.
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In the kitchen, Mandy was washing dishes, humming softly to herself. My dad didn’t waste a second.
“Stop doing this! Stop sending these pictures!” he snapped.
She spun around, dropping a plate that shattered on the floor. Her face turned a shade of red I didn’t think was possible.
Maybe I should’ve waited to overhear more of the conversation, but that’s just not the type of person I am. Instead, I rushed right in there, determined to get answers.
“What’s going on?” I blurted out, stepping into the room.
A woman peering around a door | Source: Pexels
Both Dad and Mandy froze, like deer caught in headlights. They stared at me before exchanging a guilty look.
“Everything is fine, honey,” Mandy stammered. “It’s just a misunderstanding.”
“I don’t think so,” I replied, crossing my arms. “I saw the pictures.”
Dad sighed and rubbed his forehead. “I’ll explain everything.”
He took my hand and led me upstairs to one of the bedrooms. My mind was racing, trying to piece together what was happening.
“Look,” he began, sitting me down on the edge of the bed. “Mandy and I knew each other when we were younger.”
A tense mature man | Source: Pexels
“She was in love with me,” he continued, “but I didn’t feel the same. I met your mom, and everything between us ended. Or so I thought.”
I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. This was insane.
“When you and Dylan got married, and I saw Mandy again… it was surreal. We decided not to tell anyone about our past together. But then the pictures started.” Dad hung his head. “At first, I thought it was a one-time thing, but then it kept happening. Today was the last straw.”
“This is crazy,” I said, my voice barely a whisper.
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“I know, and I’m sorry you had to see that,” he said, his eyes full of regret. “But you need to understand, it’s over. It’s been over for a long time. Your mother is the love of my life, and nothing will ever change that.”
I took a deep breath, trying to steady myself. “What do we do now?”
“We confront this together, as a family,” he said firmly. “No more secrets. We’ll talk to her and make sure this stops for good.”
I was still reeling from everything Dad had told me as we headed back downstairs.
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The whole thing felt surreal like I was trapped in some twisted reality show. My dad’s affair with Mandy from decades ago, her unrequited love, and now these scandalous photos — my head was spinning.
The rest of the family was gathered in the living room, sensing something was up. Mandy was nervously picking at a thread on her sweater, while Dean looked concerned, his eyes darting between us.
“We need to talk,” my dad announced, breaking the tense silence. “All of us. Now.”
“What’s this about?” Dean asked, his voice laced with worry.
A mature man | Source: Pexels
Mandy’s face paled as she glanced at my dad. “Please, not here. Not in front of everyone.”
“No,” I said, surprising even myself with the firmness in my voice. “This needs to be out in the open.”
My dad nodded, taking a deep breath. “It’s about the photos, the ones you’ve been sending to me.”
Dean’s eyes widened in shock. “What photos? What’s he talking about?”
Mandy’s shoulders slumped, and she let out a shaky breath. “I… Joseph and I dated before I met you. I’ve been sending him pictures. Inappropriate pictures. It was a mistake. I thought… I don’t know what I thought.”
Regretful mature woman | Source: Pexels
“You thought it was okay to do this?” I couldn’t keep the anger out of my voice. “To send those photos to my dad? How could you?”
Dean looked like someone had punched him. “I can’t believe this. Why, Mandy? Why would you do something like this?”
Tears welled up in Mandy’s eyes. “I was trying to hold onto something that was never really there. I made a mistake, a terrible mistake.”
“A mistake?” Dean echoed, his voice shaking with hurt. “This is more than a mistake. This is betrayal.”
Angry mature man | Source: MidJourney
My dad stepped forward, his expression serious. “We need to address this as a family. Mandy, you need to stop this behavior immediately.”
She nodded, wiping away her tears. “I know. I’m so sorry. I’ll do whatever it takes to make things right.”
We spent the next hour discussing what to do next. My dad was adamant that we needed a clear plan to move forward.
“We need to ensure this never happens again. Mandy, you need to seek help. Therapy, counseling—whatever.”
A sad mature woman | Source: Pexels
“I will,” she agreed, her voice small but determined. “I’ll get help. I don’t want to hurt this family any more than I already have.”
The weight of her words settled over us, and for a moment, there was only silence. Then Dean spoke, his voice heavy with emotion. “I need time to process this. But I want us to work through it. For our family.”
We all nodded, the gravity of the situation pulling us together. It wasn’t going to be easy, but we had to try.
Later that evening, after things had calmed down, my mom arrived.
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She’d been out for a walk, blissfully unaware of the storm that had erupted in her absence. We sat her down and explained everything.
Her reaction was a mixture of shock, sadness, and resolve. “We’ll get through this,” she said, holding my dad’s hand. “We’re a family, and we’ll face this together.”
The next few days were a blur of emotions as we all tried to process what had happened. There were a lot of difficult conversations, tears, and attempts at understanding.
Mandy started seeing a therapist, and slowly, we began to pick up the pieces.
Mature woman speaking to her therapist | Source: MidJourney
It was a long road to healing, but for the first time in a long while, it felt like we were all moving in the right direction. No more secrets, no more lies—just the truth, as painful as it was, and the hope that we could rebuild what had been broken.
Would you have exposed the secret if this happened to you?
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