“Age Isn’t a Deal-Breaker for Me,” a 46-Year-Old Mom Reveals Her Views on Relationships With Younger Men

Many people invest significant time and effort in the quest for eternal youth. This pursuit has now become a major inspiration for numerous cosmetic companies, beauty care brands, and even plastic surgeons. However, amid this quest are those like Joleen Diaz, a 46-year-old mother who bears an uncanny resemblance to her own daughter.

Joleen has a 23-year-old daughter.

Joleen Diaz, aged 46, and her 23-year-old daughter, Meilani Parks, took the internet by storm with astonishing Instagram photos. They appeared nearly identical while enjoying a day at the beach in their swimsuits.

Remarkably, despite a substantial 24-year age difference, these two California women are often mistaken for sisters. “While she was growing up, she often heard people tell me they thought my mother was my sister,” Joleen revealed. It appears this resemblance runs in the family.

Her youthful looks sometimes bring her trouble.

Joleen Diaz relocated to California at the age of 10, and she currently holds a position at an elementary school, teaching 3rd and 4th-grade students. In the past, she was married, and during this marriage, she became the mother of two children, Meilani Parks and Jordan. Joleen has lived as a single parent since parting ways with her husband.

Now, Joleen Diaz enjoys a notable presence on Instagram, and she frequently receives messages from younger men. Her remarkably youthful looks have led to instances where people reported her Hinge profile, suspecting it to be a fake account. “I’ve had my account deleted several times,” she said. “It’s funny, I think people think I’m a fake account and report me.”

According to Joleen, the internet has created a misleading image of her.

With over 600,000 Instagram followers, this stunning woman frequently shares her glamorous selfies and bikini snapshots. However, she wants people to see her true personality beyond these photos. She believes her social media doesn’t capture her simple, down-to-earth nature. She prefers to connect with someone first and then introduce them to her social media once they get to know her better because she wants to demonstrate that she’s not as glamorous as her online persona might make her seem.

Joleen is still waiting for love to enter her life.

Although younger men often show interest in Joleen on social media and dating apps, she prefers to leave the millennial guys for her daughter Meilani.

She clarified her stance by saying, “Age isn’t a deal-breaker for me, but I don’t want to date a toyboy. I would never even remotely consider dating someone who is young enough to be friends with my daughter.”

Joleen is in search of mature men who meet her criteria. She explained, “I gravitate toward ambitious, motivated men, someone who is confident, has a positive outlook, and can communicate well.” The mother-daughter duo intends to continue double dating until they both find their ideal partners.

They’re more than just mom and daughter.

Currently, the mother-daughter duo have profiles on several dating apps. They frequently engage in double dates and are interested in assessing each other’s potential partners.

Joleen explained, “When we see people, we often go bowling, to the movies, hikes, to the beach. Meilani asks for my advice on dating all the time. I love that she trusts in the advice I give. I feel like she’s well-balanced in dating, and I’m glad my experiences can help her out.”

Though there’s no definitive formula for retaining a youthful appearance indefinitely, some women have discovered effective practices that work for them, enabling them to preserve their beauty throughout the years.

My mom prohibited me from seeing my dad, but his phone call changed everything

My mother did everything in her power to prevent me from seeing my father after they divorced. But once my dad tricked me on the phone, and everything changed.

“I don’t want to see you ever again!” my mom yelled as my father got into the car and left our home forever. That was my earliest memory. Dad left when I was two years old after a huge fight with my mother.

They got divorced, and I didn’t see him for many years. As I got older, I realized that my mother was preventing me from seeing my father. “I want to visit Dad. Please!” I begged when I was ten years old.

“No! You can’t go see him. He’s busy with his new family and doesn’t want to see you,” she replied.

“I know that’s not true! You’re lying to me! I talk to him on the phone, and he wants to see me!” I cried, pleading with her to see my father.

“Don’t talk back to me, Alexandra! Your father left us and doesn’t deserve to have a relationship with you now,” Mom said. I thought that was unfair, but I was still just a child.

My dad and I kept in constant contact over the phone, but I really wanted to spend time with him, and I knew he wanted the same. However, Mom was an expert at getting her way.

As a teenager, I decided to go on my own to see him, and she called the cops on me. They picked me up before I could reach his house and drove me back home.

“The next time you try to disobey me, I will say that your father kidnapped you, and he will go to jail where he belongs!” she screamed at me when the cops left.

Back then, I thought she was doing the right thing for me, but as I grew up, I realized that it was pure selfishness on her part. I didn’t want to hang out with her or do anything. I also started rebelling at school. She drove a huge wedge between us, and I didn’t care anymore.

“Alexandra, do you want to go shopping with me?” she asked me one day. I was 17 years old and had grown to almost hate her.

“Nope,” I answered.

“How about the movies?”

“Nope.”

“Why don’t you want to do anything with me?” she whined.

“Really? You’re asking me that question? You know exactly why I treat you this way,” I said in a bored tone.

“I have done nothing to you! All the sacrifices I have made for you, and you’re so ungrateful!” Mom yelled once more.

“Yeah, ok. Close the door, please,” I added.

By then, I was immune to her tantrums and how she victimized herself to get away with things. I moved out as soon as I turned 18 and never looked back.

But seeing my dad wasn’t any easier. I had to work two jobs and go to school. He was also busy with work, and his second wife had just delivered twins by then. Neither of us had time, so we put it off.

I met with him on a Saturday afternoon at his house and met his wife. They showed me the twins, and we talked for a while. But it felt so awkward that I didn’t want to do it again. Maybe my mother had ruined any chance I had at a relationship with him.

We talked on the phone for a long time once a week. I asked about the twins and told him about my life. It wasn’t ideal, but it worked for us. Years went by this way. I didn’t hear of my mother until I was 29 years old.

“Hey, Alexandra,” she spoke on the phone tentatively.

“Oh, hey, Mom,” I answered, confused with her call.

“We haven’t talked in a long time. How are you?” she asked.

“I’m fine. How about you?” I replied. We chitchatted awkwardly for a few minutes, and then she got to the point.

“Listen, honey. I was hoping that we could work on mending our relationship. How does that sound?” Mom wondered.

“I don’t know. Are you going to apologize for everything?” I retorted.

“I…I still don’t think I did anything wrong. I was trying to protect you from being hurt like I was when you were little. But I understand that you felt differently,” she explained.

“So, you’re not apologizing?” I continued, tired of this conversation. She was never going to acknowledge her wrongs, and I had no time for that.

“Alexandra! I’m your mother. You haven’t talked to me in years! You’re so selfish!” she wailed, raising her voice.

“Ok, goodbye,” I said and hung up the phone. She tried calling me back, but I ignored her. I would not let her back into my life until she apologized.

Another year went by, and I received a strange call from my dad. He never called during working hours. “Alexandra! This is an emergency! Can you come to see me?” Dad said urgently through the phone.

“What? Dad? What’s going on?” I asked, worried.

“I sent you an address. Come quickly! This is a matter of life or death!” he told me and hung up.

I went to my boss, took a day off work, and ran to my car. But the address Dad gave me took me right to an amusement park close to his house.

“Hey, honey!” he smiled when I met him at the front gate.

“Dad! Why are we here? What’s the emergency?” I asked, confused.

“The emergency is that you and I never got to do all the fun things father and daughters do over the years. We have put off building a real relationship, and I don’t want to waste any more time. Let’s go have fun!” Dad explained.

“Can you go on the rides? I know you have had some health problems lately,” I said hesitantly.

“I’m fit as a fiddle. Come on!” he urged.

We spent the entire day at the park and talked about everything. I felt like a child for the first time in my life, and it was wonderful.

I also told him about my problems with Mom and how hard it was when she didn’t let me see him. “Your mother is complicated and full of pride. But she’s not evil. We didn’t work out, and she couldn’t take it,” he started.

“Yeah, I wished I could’ve lived with you,” I told him.

“Well, I was pretty lost for many years trying to figure things out. We might have hated each other. But here we are, and I think you should patch things up with her. Life is too short to hold grudges,” he said.

After that marvelous day at the park, we went to dinner. When I got home, I called Mom and told her everything I felt regarding my dad. How she hurt me back then by not letting me spend time with him and how fun our day had been. She cried and apologized to me for the first time. I felt like she understood, and we started talking more often.

Meanwhile, I grew closer to my dad and loved babysitting my twin half-siblings. We even took them to the amusement park for a fun day too.

I finally had the childhood I always wanted.

What can we learn from this story?

Divorce happens between couples, not with children. Alexandra’s mother didn’t understand that her father divorced her but wanted a relationship with their daughter.
Life is too short for grudges. Alexandra’s father is right. Sometimes, it’s better to forgive for your own sake. Let go of things that make you angry, and your mental health will improve.

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