I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.
I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).
I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).
Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.
My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.
It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.
She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….
I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.
Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.
Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.
She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.
I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.
Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.
Howie Mandel opens up on his condition
On “The Kelly Clarkson Show,” Mandel discussed his struggles with mental illness. He confessed that his celebrity status had a negative impact on his mental health, not a positive one.
From the outside, he sometimes seems cheerful, but when he’s at home, especially alone, he stated that’s not the case.
When Kelly Clarkson heard this, she was shocked. Mandel then acknowledged, “I’m heavily medicated.” Clarkson found it hard to comprehend that someone would make derogatory remarks about her.
Since he was a young child, Howard Stern has battled anxiety and OCD. He has said that he has had these ailments for almost his entire life.
Because he didn’t have any classmates to make friends with when he was younger, he was labeled “strange.” Though he believes he gets paid to be strange, he now finds that every day is a struggle. America’s Got Talent has Stern on the panel as a judge.
Mandel claims to be experiencing a nightmare and tries to ground himself. He has a lovely family and enjoys his work, yet he can also experience deep sadness from which he cannot recover.
He shared a lot of worry during the COVID-19 epidemic because he always has the thought, “We could die,” running through his head. But the fact that everyone in his immediate vicinity was okay would comfort him. But the world as a whole was in horrible shape [during the pandemic].
Up until 2006, Mandel kept his illnesses a secret from the public. He was ashamed and concerned that if his instability were discovered, he wouldn’t be able to obtain employment.
Mandel’s initial concern was that he had let his family down, but he later understood that if it was discovered that he wasn’t stable, he might not be employed.
Howie Mandel, the comedian, has struggled with severe depression for a long time. Mandel acknowledges that, even though he still experiences dark and terrible periods, the general public may not fully understand the severity of his depression.
Like other comedians, he utilizes comedy to deal with his disability. He claims that comedy saved him, and he feels most at ease performing.
Mandel claimed that he is now coming forth about his struggles with mental illness because he wants to end the stigma.
He is aware that enduring all of this will not be simple, but he has faith that despite his difficulties, he will continue to treasure the times when his life is not shadowed by darkness.
Mandel is aware that some people find his battles with mental illness amusing, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t terrible for him.
Despite his obstacles, he is optimistic that he can end the stigma associated with mental health issues. It won’t be simple for him to keep his mental health, but he wants to.
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