Every story has two sides, yet not every storyteller is honest. In life, how people perceive you often depends on who is telling your story. When the wrong person holds the narrative, they might twist events, leave out key details, or paint you as the villain—even if the reality is far more complex.
It’s a painful truth: you will always be the bad guy when the wrong person tells your story. Whether it’s a former friend, an ex-lover, a colleague, or even a family member, their version of events may not reflect what really happened. But why do people distort stories? And how can you rise above false narratives and protect your truth?
Let’s break it down.
Why People Rewrite the Story to Make You the Villain
Not everyone tells the truth—sometimes, people manipulate stories to fit their own agenda. There are many reasons why someone might twist the facts to make you look like the villain.
1. Self-Preservation
Nobody wants to admit they were wrong. If someone hurt you, betrayed you, or failed you, they might rewrite the story to shift the blame onto you. It’s easier to make you the bad guy than to take responsibility for their own actions.
2. Seeking Validation
Some people crave sympathy and attention. They paint themselves as the victim and you as the antagonist so others will rally around them. The more dramatic the story, the more support they receive.
3. Personal Guilt and Shame
Ironically, those who wronged you might feel guilty but don’t want to face it. Instead of acknowledging their faults, they project their guilt onto you—making you the scapegoat.
4. Controlling the Narrative
Whoever speaks first and loudest often controls how others see a situation. If someone is desperate to protect their reputation, they’ll make sure to spread their version before you have a chance to explain yourself.
When You Realize People Are Hearing a One-Sided Story
At some point, you might notice that people treat you differently—perhaps with judgment, coldness, or suspicion. That’s often a sign that someone has been telling a version of your story where you’re the villain.
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So what do you do? Do you fight back? Do you explain yourself to everyone? Not necessarily.
1. Not Everyone Deserves Your Truth
You don’t owe every single person an explanation. Some people will believe what they want to believe, no matter what you say. Choose your battles wisely.
2. Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Instead of defending yourself against false stories, let your actions prove who you truly are. Over time, the truth has a way of revealing itself.
3. Trust Those Who Know Your Character
The people who truly know you won’t be swayed by lies. They’ve seen your actions, your integrity, and your heart—their perception of you won’t change just because someone else spins a false narrative.
How to Rise Above False Narratives
Being wrongly painted as the villain can feel unfair, but it doesn’t have to define you. Here’s how to rise above it:
1. Accept That You Can’t Control the Story
You can’t force someone to tell the truth. You can’t control what others say about you—but you can control how you react. Don’t waste energy trying to change minds that are already made up.
2. Keep Your Integrity Intact
When someone spreads falsehoods about you, it’s tempting to lash out. Resist that urge. Responding with anger or spite only gives them more material to use against you. Stay true to your values, and let your dignity do the talking.
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3. Protect Your Peace
Not every battle is worth fighting. Choose peace over proving a point. If someone is committed to misunderstanding you, let them—your energy is better spent on people who uplift you.
4. Let Time Reveal the Truth
The truth has a way of surfacing. People who lie eventually expose themselves through inconsistencies, contradictions, and patterns of behavior. Stay patient, and let time do its work.
Finding Strength in Being Misunderstood
At the end of the day, you can’t stop people from twisting your story, but you can choose how you respond. Instead of chasing approval, focus on being the person you know you are.
Not everyone will understand you. Not everyone will believe your side. But as long as you live with honesty, kindness, and integrity, the right people will see the truth—and that’s all that really matters.
So the next time you realize someone is telling your story incorrectly, remember this: You are not defined by someone else’s version of you.
I Hired a Man to Wish My Son a Merry Christmas as Santa Claus and I Noticed He Had the Same Birthmark as My Son
I hired the same Santa actor to come to our house for three years straight. But it was only last Christmas Eve that I stumbled upon him in the bathroom and discovered why he was so dedicated to us… actually, to my son.
Real life is often stranger than fiction. Hello there! My name is Elara, and I was 34 when this happened last year. First, some quick background: I adopted my son, Dylan, when he was six months old. That was already eight years ago.
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The adoption agency found him on their doorstep (yeah, like a movie, I know) with just a note saying his name was Martin.
He was still a baby, so I decided to rename him Dylan, and it’s been just us against the world ever since. It’s hard raising a child on my own, but it’s been the most rewarding time in my life.
Every holiday became more special since I adopted him, and my favorite was Christmas. Dylan was a fuzzy baby, and I hate crowds, so instead of going to the mall, I started searching for a Santa I could hire for a photo.
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I discovered a photography studio that had its own actor, and I took my son there. However, as Dylan grew up, I thought about mixing things up.
Over three years ago, as I was still trying to come up with ideas for better Christmas traditions, I found a flyer stuck on my doorstep. It said: “Professional actor available to visit your home dressed as Santa Claus to surprise your child.”
There was a name and a phone number, and honestly? It felt heaven-sent. So, I called, and soon, Harold entered our lives.
A flyer | Source: Midjourney
He showed up that first Christmas in a Santa suit that was a little too big for him. But it was exactly what I had in mind. Dylan was five, and he totally thought it was the real Santa.
He dragged Santa around our tiny living room and showed him every single ornament on our small, weirdly decorated tree. Meanwhile, I watched from the old, thrifted couch.
But looking back, I should’ve noticed the red flags. That day, Harold stayed for THREE HOURS. He built block towers with Dylan, read stories, and even helped bake cookies.
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I tried to pay him extra (which I honestly couldn’t really afford), but he straight up refused and asked me to please call him next Christmas.
A year later, I did just that, and Harold was surprisingly still in business. Most kids get a rushed mall Santa photo, right? Not Dylan.
He got personal playtime with Santa in our living room. But, I kept thinking, “Doesn’t this guy have other houses to visit?”
Santa sitting in a living room, playing with a boy | Source: Midjourney
One time I asked him about it. “You really don’t have to stay this long. Other families must be waiting,” I hinted, trying to be subtle about it.
He just smiled and said, “Oh no, Christmas Eve is reserved just for special boys like Dylan.” Again, looking back now… yeah. Something was up.
Dylan also became used to his Santa privilege and went ALL IN on these visits. He would deep clean his room (I mean, as best as a kid could) and do extra chores. As he told me, “Santa would want to see I’m being good.”
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Fast-forward to this past Christmas. Dylan was eight and still believed in Santa, but he was slowly getting to that age where kids started asking questions.
As always, our living room was in full Christmas mode with lights everywhere, dollar store stockings by our fake fireplace (hey, we work with what we got), and our trusty artificial tree covered in eight years of random ornaments.
Dylan was excitedly talking about his science project to Harold when he made a wrong move, and suddenly, hot cocoa was covering Santa’s whole suit.
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“Oh NO!” my kid bellowed like his world was ending, but Harold played it cool.
“Don’t worry, my friend. Even Santa has accidents sometimes,” he laughed, then looked at me. “Mind if I use your bathroom to clean up?”
I nodded and rushed to grab him a towel from the closet, and when I went to hand it to him… oh, boy. He had taken off the top of his costume and…no! This is not one of those stories.
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What struck me speechless was a weird crescent-shaped birthmark on Harold’s back. It was identical to Dylan’s. What were the odds?
But wait, it gets stranger. On the bathroom counter, I saw keys to a Mercedes. Since when does a part-time Santa actor (who works for a less-than-averaged income family) drive a car like that? Also, it wasn’t outside. Did he park it far away?
Anyway, I tried to play it cool and handed over the towel without looking. But my mind was RACING.
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Back in the living room, Dylan was setting up some board game Santa had said he could open early. I sat there trying to make everything make sense. The birthmark, the car, the way he always spent so much time with us…
But what happened next was the real kicker.
Harold came out of the bathroom and said, “So, Martin, ready to play again?”
A man dressed as Santa coming out of the bathroom | Source: Midjourney
MARTIN! That was the name written on the note left with Dylan when he was found on the doorstep of an orphanage eight years ago!
I lost it. Jumped up and yelled, “WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT IS GOING ON HERE?!”
Poor Dylan froze, and Harold’s mouth dropped wide.
“Mommy?” Dylan’s voice was tiny. “Why are you yelling at Santa?”
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I had to take a step back and inhale deeply. Also, I sent Dylan upstairs for a second. Then, I turned my eyes to “Santa.”
“The birthmark. Those keys. And you called him Martin. Start talking. Now,” I demanded, running my hands through my hair.
To my shock, Harold laughed. But it wasn’t humorously. It was like releasing a huge worry. He took off his fake beard and I saw his square jaw for the first time.
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He looked handsome. Young. Around 40 years old, I’d say. Somehow, he also looked…rich. But most of all, he looked like my son.
Harold saw my face, and he nodded. “That’s correct. I’m his father,” he said breathlessly, and his shoulders slumped.
The background: Years ago, he was young and broke when Dylan was born. His mother left them, and Harold had no way to support his kid or any family to help out.
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The only solution was to give his child (the one he had named Martin) up for adoption and hope someone else could give him a good life. But he kept tabs on him… on me.
And years ago, he made up the whole Santa thing just to spend time with Dylan once a year.
He’d gotten his life together by then after starting some successful business but didn’t want to mess up Dylan’s happy life with me.
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I won’t lie, I was mad. But also… I got it? Like, he found this weird way to be there for his son without taking him from me.
After that conversation, I asked him for some time. Harold nodded, went back to being Santa, said goodbye to Dylan, and left. But I had his contact information, and we talked regularly.
A few days later, I decided my son needed to know. I sat him down. He knew he was adopted, but this was different. At first, he was skeptical. “Mom, Santa can’t be my dad,” he rolled his eyes at me.
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“No, silly,” I said and sighed. “You should know by now that Santa is a real man under that suit. The one who visits us every year is called Harold.”
And then, I went into detail with all I knew. Dylan took a while to digest the information, and a day later, he told me he wanted to talk to Harold. I knew that would be his response because my kid loved him already, even if at first he thought he was Santa.
The next weekend, I invited Harold to our house for dinner, and he came over without his costume for the first time. It was still a little strange, but we got used to it.
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After a few hours, Dylan was his usual self, chatty and excited. He wanted to show off to his biological father. By the end of the night, we agreed to set up visits every weekend.
Every weekend turned into every other night… And every other night turned into every day. To my even bigger surprise, Harold took an interest in me too.
As Santa, he had asked about me, but I always thought that was just out of politeness. Not anymore, though. It took us three months after the big revelation to confess our feelings for each other.
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A few more months later (just last week, I mean!) he proposed to me. In his Santa suit. It was more romantic than it sounds, and I just needed to share this story.
Life is weird sometimes. My kid got the dad he never thought he’d get, I found love, and it all started because I hired a Santa!
Our family of two was doing fine, even if money was never plentiful. But along with love, Harold gave us the world with the success he built after struggling for years. It was my dream come true.
Also, we’re getting married this Christmas!!
A boy lookihng up at a groom and bride | Source: Midjourney
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