Those nine months a mom carries her baby are filled with joy, anticipation, and a dose of uncertainty. What the new parents hope for is their bundle of joy to be healthy. Sadly, that is not always the case.
Jennie Wilklow, from Highland, New York, couldn’t wait to meet her daughter. She and her husband were over the moon to hold her in their arms. All the ultrasounds and doctor’s appointment suggested the baby was healthy, so they were eased and never thought sweet Anna would be born with a condition that would change all of their lives forever.
Jennie delivered Anna via C-section at 34 weeks. Doctors told her she looked beautiful and that was all Jennie needed to hear at that point.
Shortly after, the proud mom heard her daughter cry, and that was just another sign that everything was right with her little jewel.
When her husband visited Jennie, he was strangely silent and looked worried and puzzled.
“My husband’s silence scared me; he just sat in shock as the doctor left, and I prodded for more info,” Jennie shared with Cafe Mom.
“He just kept saying, ‘It’s bad.’ What does that even mean? I thought in my head. He told me, ‘Jennie, I looked in her eyes, and she has the most beautiful soul.’”
Anna was diagnosed with harlequin ichthyosis, a rare condition that causes thick diamond-shaped plates that are separated by deep cracks. “As they tried frantically to help her, her skin hardened within seconds (of birth). After hardening, it began to split, causing open wounds all over her body,” Jennie told Cafe Mom.
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Although doctors weren’t sure she would survive, Anna beat the odds and is thriving. “She was beauty in the purest form,” her mom said.
There isn’t cure, and the treatment is quite demanding as it requires constant baths and keeping the skin as much moisturized as possible. “Every couple of hours I covered her with Vaseline and bathed her for many hours of the day. I had dreamed for years about the things my baby would wear, and though it seemed so trivial, it was what I struggled with most,” Jennie said.
In an attempt to raise awareness about this condition, Jennie posts photos of Anna on her Instagram page harlequindiva. She opens up about the everyday struggles and what it is like to have a child with harlequin ichthyosis.
“Anna captured everyone’s hearts because she is the purest form of perfection. Doing the work every day is simple when I’m doing it for her, and with every new accomplishment, the world celebrates with me,” Jennie told Cafe Mom.
She adds, “I now understand that I was given her because of the love I already carried in my heart for my daughter. Anna was meant for me, and I for her, and together we will show the world what true beauty is.”
I’m Raising Another Person’s Child While Her Mother Enjoys Party Life
I fell in love with a pregnant woman, promising to help her raise her child, but she chose to have fun and eventually abandoned me. Years later, she returned to do something unimaginable.
I met Molly in college. She was stunning and often surrounded by the popular guys, particularly the football team. Although we became friends, my feelings for her were unreturned. Eventually, she started dating Tanner, the team captain, and I always felt she deserved better.
A few months later, Molly came to my house in tears. Tanner had broken up with her and quickly moved on with someone else. I tried to comfort her, but she was heartbroken. A month after that, she revealed life-altering news: she was pregnant.
When I learned that Tanner wanted nothing to do with the baby, I was furious. He urged her to terminate the pregnancy, which made me even angrier. Molly felt lost; she was in college and didn’t think she could handle being a single mom.
Without hesitation, I offered to marry her and help raise the baby. I didn’t care about my feelings for her; I just wanted to support her. Molly hesitated but eventually agreed, and we went to the courthouse with friends as witnesses.
We managed through the pregnancy, though it was challenging. I was excited to become a father, but Molly seemed increasingly unhappy. She missed her carefree college life. When our daughter, Amelia, was born, I fell in love with her immediately, and I embraced my role as her dad. Molly adapted better than I expected, and we formed a little family.
However, as the years passed, Molly’s discontent grew. When Amelia was five, Molly broke down and said she couldn’t do it anymore. She felt she had lost her youth and decided to leave, shocking me completely. Despite my attempts to reason with her, she packed her things and walked away, leaving me to care for Amelia alone.
I became a single father, which was harder than I imagined. Amelia cried often, missing her mother, but we eventually adjusted. Meanwhile, Molly enjoyed her freedom, frequently posting about her new life on social media, and it broke my heart to see her partying while I raised our daughter.
Years later, I learned Molly had rekindled her relationship with Tanner, the very man who had abandoned her when she needed support. Just when I thought we had moved on, Molly returned, demanding Amelia live with her and Tanner, claiming they were ready to be a family.
I was furious. I had raised Amelia all these years, and I was her true father. Molly threatened to take me to court for custody, and I felt trapped. My lawyers advised settling out of court, but I knew that Amelia belonged with me.
When the court date arrived, Amelia testified, saying I was her only father and that she didn’t want to live with her mother, who had left her. The judge listened, granting me full custody while allowing Molly visitation on weekends. I encouraged Amelia to forgive her mother and build a relationship, but she often reminded me that I was the best father she could have.
From this experience, I learned two important lessons: appreciate what you have, and recognize that some responsibilities require significant sacrifices. Molly threw away her family, only to discover that she couldn’t easily reclaim it.
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