Marlo Thomas and Phil Donahue actually wrote the marital handbook.
The long-married couple’s book, What Makes a Marriage Last: Insider Stories, contains personal facts about their marriage. Forty Well-Known Couples Share Their Secrets with Us.
The most fascinating revelation made by Marlo is that, even though she and Phil have been married for over 40 years, she never really wanted to get married.
The famous person expressed in the book her previously negative opinion of the institution, saying that marriage is like a vacuum cleaner that sucks away all of your ambition and vitality when you stick it to your ear.
Thomas frequently shares her opinions, likening marriage to having to placate a prisoner. That is, until she met Donahue.
Phil Donahue and Marlo Thomas met following the dissolution of their first marriage, and they have remained lifelong friends ever since.
The Phil Donahue Show, which was eventually renamed as simply “Donahue,” was the vehicle through which Phil Donahue first gained popular recognition. For the first time, audience members participated in the program, which ran for 29 years. One of the visitors on his show who radically changed his life’s trajectory was Marlo Thomas.
The book claims that the two met in 1977 in Chicago, when Phil was bringing four children with him. His fifth child, a daughter, lived somewhere else with her mother and ex-wife.
Marlo and Phil dated for three years before being married in 1980 in front of a small wedding party of thirty-five guests.
Not surprise, Marlo’s friends and family were taken aback by the actress’s sudden change of heart. A hilarious story of Marlo’s bridal shower, where visitors hung notes from the soon-to-be bride that disclosed her past views on marriage, is featured in the couple’s book.
The book claims that Marlo’s mother was the most shocked of all, asking Donahue, “How did you get her to do this?” throughout the nuptials of the pair.
Reportedly, among other emotions, even total strangers voiced shock at the well-known social activist’s decision to get married. While Phil was in the lavatory, a passenger on the airplane the couple took to Greece for their honeymoon expressed displeasure to Marlo, presumably disappointed that she had given up her old independent streak.
In the book, Thomas is honest enough to acknowledge that something was unclear when they spoke. After all her life condemning marriage, was she suddenly a hypocrite for getting married? Had she let those down who held her in high regard as the embodiment of self-reliance?
Even though Donahue and Thomas discuss the usual ups and downs of their long marriage in the book, they manage to make their marriage work to this day. They describe these problems as teaching moments that deepened their relationship.
The couple had been apart from the beginning of their marriage, with Phil traveling to Chicago to tape his show and Marlo traveling to pursue her acting career.
Thomas had a greater understanding of how different individuals define marriage when his aunt said that the couple’s union was void because they weren’t living together exclusively. In spite of their separation, Thomas and Donahue were able to keep their marriage together. Significantly, Marlo’s marriage resulted in her having children.
In a 2012 interview with AARP, Thomas reflected on her experience helping Phil raise his kids, stating she went into it knowing that they already had a traditional mother and that would not be her role.
Rather, Marlo claims that she began to treat Phil’s children more like friends in an effort to mimic the parenting style of her own mother. She continues by saying that she feels more connected to them today than she did at the start of their marriage.
Donahue points out that Thomas really did strive to understand the lads in the book and spent as much time as she could getting to know his sons.
Phil and Marlo believe that their long marriage is a result of her strong bond with his kids and their mutual faith in each other. “You build trust when you realize that this person always has your back,” says Marlo in clarification.
Despite being married for more than 40 years, they still have more memories to make.
Phil goes on to argue that a marriage has to be desired by both parties in order for it to last. Marlo says she would never want to be anything other than married to her lover, echoing his sentiments. She claims that Donahue has assisted her “in every manner possible.”
When two people truly commit to one another, marriage is an incredibly lovely union that is made much more beautiful.
These two have a lot to teach and inspire us all. As satisfying as their relationship is, we should all strive to be in one!
One Look at My Niece’s Birthmark Exposed My Husband’s Shocking Betrayal
I was shocked when I saw a birthmark on my niece that looked just like my husband’s. But instead of jumping to conclusions, I secretly decided to get a DNA test to uncover the truth.
Sitting under a tree, I was enjoying the breeze with baby Sofia in my arms. She wasn’t my child but my sister-in-law Fiona’s, though I loved her like she was my own.
My husband, David, always said his family was distant, so it was a surprise when Fiona and Sofia moved nearby. However, their presence made me happier than I expected.
During our picnic, Fiona wanted to take Sofia back, but I playfully refused and said, “No, you clean up first. We’re fine here.” As I changed Sofia’s diaper, I noticed the birthmark on her back. It looked exactly like the one on David’s back. I couldn’t believe it. For a moment, I just stared at Sofia, wondering about the connection between David and Fiona.
I didn’t say anything and tried to act normal, even though my mind was racing with questions.
Later that night, as I helped David after his shower, I kept thinking about his birthmark. It matched Sofia’s perfectly. I couldn’t shake the feeling that something was wrong. The next day, I collected DNA samples from Sofia and David. I had to know the truth.
When the test results arrived, I was on edge. Fiona’s visits only made me more anxious, and I avoided her as much as possible. One day, David made a comment about Sofia’s first words, and it pushed me over the edge. I stood up and accused them both of hiding the truth. “Sofia is your child!” I yelled. The birthmark was proof, I thought.
Their shocked faces told me everything I needed to know. I ran out of the house, and as I drove away, I felt sick to my stomach, wondering if I might be pregnant. The thought terrified me.
The next day, I took a pregnancy test, and it confirmed my fear. I was pregnant with David’s baby, but I was filled with doubt about our relationship.
I returned home to get my things, ready to leave for good. David tried to explain that Fiona was his sister, but I wasn’t sure I could believe him. When I mentioned the DNA test, David suggested we look at the results together.
At the doctor’s office, the first test mistakenly said David was Sofia’s father. We were all shocked, but the doctor quickly corrected the mistake. The final results proved that David was not Sofia’s father.
Back at home, I apologized to David and Fiona for doubting them. David admitted he should have introduced me to his family earlier, and Fiona explained that Sofia’s father had passed away. We hugged, relieved that everything was finally clear.
Months later, I gave birth to a baby boy named Zack. Our family was stronger than ever, and we were surrounded by love. It was a happy ending to a very difficult time.
Holding him in my arms, I realized how much I had let my suspicions cloud my judgment. Life had thrown me a curveball, but here we were, stronger and more united as a family than ever before.
When I brought Zack home from the hospital, I was greeted with a sight that took my breath away. There were cars lined up outside our house, and family members—both from David’s side and mine—had gathered to celebrate the arrival of our son. I didn’t expect such a warm welcome. I turned to David with surprise in my eyes, whispering, “I didn’t know your family was this excited about a new baby.”
David smiled, wrapping his arm around my waist as he looked down at Zack, who was peacefully asleep in my arms. “I guess they were just waiting for the right moment to show up,” he joked, kissing me on the forehead. Behind us, Fiona stood holding Sofia, her face beaming with happiness. The tension that had once existed between us had vanished entirely.
As we stepped inside, I saw faces I hadn’t seen before, and it struck me that David’s estranged family wasn’t as distant as I had thought. They had simply needed time, and maybe a little encouragement, to come together. Fiona had been the first bridge, and now, with Zack’s arrival, they had all come to embrace our growing family.
One by one, relatives came up to greet us, offering gifts and words of congratulations. It was overwhelming, but in the best way possible. I felt a deep sense of belonging, a warmth that filled the house as laughter and chatter echoed through the rooms. This was the family I had always dreamed of—full of love, support, and understanding.
Later that evening, after everyone had gone home and the house was finally quiet, I sat in the nursery with Zack cradled in my arms. David joined me, pulling a chair close to mine as we both stared down at our son, marveling at how perfect he was.
“You know,” I said softly, “I almost lost everything because I didn’t trust you.”
David took my hand and squeezed it gently. “We’ve been through a lot, but that’s behind us now. What matters is that we came through it together. And now, we have Zack, and our family is stronger than ever.”
I nodded, tears welling up in my eyes, but this time they were tears of happiness. “I’m sorry for doubting you. For not believing in us when things got hard.”
David wiped a tear from my cheek and smiled. “You don’t need to apologize anymore. We’ve both learned from this. And I promise, from now on, I’ll be better about making sure you never feel left in the dark again.”
His words filled me with hope and comfort. I knew that our journey wasn’t going to be perfect. There would still be challenges, misunderstandings, and moments of doubt. But I also knew that we had built a foundation strong enough to weather those storms. We were in this together, and nothing would break us apart.
As I rocked Zack in my arms, I glanced over at David and smiled. “I can’t believe how far we’ve come,” I whispered. “There was a time I thought I was going to lose everything—our marriage, our family—and now look at us. We’ve grown, we’ve learned, and we’ve made it through something that could have destroyed us.”
David leaned over and kissed the top of my head. “That’s what love does,” he said softly. “It endures. It heals. And it makes us stronger.”
As Zack stirred in my arms, I knew deep down that the road ahead, though uncertain, was one we would walk together. And this time, there would be no more doubts. No more secrets. Only love, trust, and the promise of a future where our family would thrive.
In the weeks that followed, life returned to a peaceful rhythm. David and I were busy adjusting to life as parents of a newborn, and Sofia, as always, was a joy to have around. Fiona visited regularly, and our bond grew stronger with each passing day. There was no more awkwardness, no more unspoken tension between us. We had confronted the past and come out on the other side, closer than I ever thought possible.
Zack’s birth had not only brought new life into our home, but it had also brought healing. The arrival of our son had erased the scars of mistrust, and his presence reminded me every day of the power of love and forgiveness. I no longer carried the burden of doubt. Instead, I felt gratitude—gratitude for my family, for the love that had survived even the toughest trials, and for the future that now stretched out before us, filled with hope and promise.
As I stood at the window one evening, looking out at the sunset while holding Zack close, I smiled to myself, thinking about how life can sometimes throw unexpected challenges our way. But through those challenges, we grow, we learn, and in the end, we find ourselves stronger, more connected, and more in love than ever before.
With David by my side, Sofia laughing in the background, and Zack sleeping peacefully in my arms, I knew that no matter what lay ahead, we would face it together as a family—unbreakable and filled with love.
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