There are many people who get married despite the fact that critics may doubt their ability to stay married for the long term. This often happens when we get married quickly or perhaps we are young and people don’t think we are yet responsible enough for the bond.
In 1995, there was a young couple who also were doubted but they ended up getting married and they stayed married for 25 years. They also were the first couple with Down syndrome in the UK to become husband and wife.
These days, we hear about people who have Down syndrome getting married on a regular basis. At that time, however, it was unheard of and it was the first time in the world that a couple with Down syndrome said I do.
Just like any other disability, however, those with Down syndrome have the ability to beat the odds, and certainly, that is what Tommy and Maryanne Pilling did. In fact, they are an inspiration to many who wonder if they have what it takes.
Maryanne was born in 1971. Her mother, Linda Martin, provided her with a loving atmosphere at home and she also had a sister who loved her as well. There were still times, however, when she struggled in life and she was even rejected by her father.
Since she was raised in a loving household, however, she grew up to be a very loving woman. It was easy to see in her lively personality.
Tommy was born in 1958 and was an only child. When he was 12 years old, he became an orphan and he grew up in a care home in Essex. He did have delayed development because of a lack of a support system, and he didn’t care much for his physical appearance.
When the two of them met in 1990, they were working in a kitchen in a training home for disabled individuals. He was 32 and she was 19 at the time.
It was easy to see how Maryanne felt about Tommy because she would absolutely light up when she spoke about him. They shared a number of common interests, such as music, cooking, movies, and doing craftwork.
Tommy also loved Elvis Pressley and the two of them would dance together on a regular basis. He would also let her know how much he loved her, and eventually, the family got accustomed to having him around.
18 months after they started dating, he proposed to her and asked her mother for permission to marry her daughter. The mother didn’t hesitate, she gave her blessings right away.
Other people, however, were not quite so positive about the idea of the two of them getting married. Some said that she wasn’t ready for it and some even asked about their sex life.
Despite the fact that they were criticized openly, they got married in 1995. 250 people came to the wedding, which was a fairytale for them.
They lived together with her family for seven years before moving into their own apartment next door. Her sister also moved along with them.
They have a very strong bond because he listens carefully when she speaks. There is never any type of hidden agenda and they love each other with their whole hearts.
Unfortunately, Tommy was hospitalized in 2020 after he was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and then got COVID. Due to his declining health, he passed away. That was on January 1, 2021.
When the news was broken to her, she seemed to understand but still was a little confused about the situation. We are just glad that they had almost 30 years together, and they loved each other till the end.
I Invited My New Friend to My House — The Moment She Saw My Husband, She Nearly Lunged at Him
When Rachel invites her new friend Mary over for dinner, the night takes an unexpected turn. The moment Mary sees Rachel’s husband, she flies into a rage and makes a shocking accusation. Stunned and caught between her friend and her husband, Rachel’s perfect life begins to unravel.
On paper, Dan and I are that annoyingly perfect suburban family – you know the type. I’ve got the marketing manager gig, Dan’s killing it as a software developer, and we live with our gorgeous four-year-old, Ethan, in one of those houses with the manicured lawns and the neighborhood BBQs.
But lately, I’d been feeling like something was missing, even though I couldn’t put my finger on what. So I did what any self-respecting millennial does when faced with an existential crisis: I joined a fitness class.
And that’s where I met Mary.
Mary was different. In a good way. She was our instructor, all toned muscles and infectious energy. Single mom to a sweet little girl named Cindy. From day one, we just clicked.
“Come on, Rachel!” she’d yell during burpees, grinning like a maniac. “You’ve got this! Channel that boardroom boss energy!”
I’d be lying if I said her enthusiasm wasn’t a little terrifying at first. But soon enough, I found myself looking forward to our sessions, and not just for the endorphin high.
After class one day, as I was chugging water and trying not to collapse, Mary plopped down next to me.
“So,” she said, her eyes twinkling. “Lunch tomorrow? There’s this new place downtown that does amazing salads. And before you say no, remember, we earned it!”
And just like that, we fell into a rhythm. Workouts, lunches, shopping trips where we’d try on ridiculous outfits and laugh until our sides hurt. It felt like being in college again, having a best friend to share everything with.
“God, I needed this,” I told her one day over sushi. “Don’t get me wrong, I love my family, but sometimes…”
Mary nodded, popping a California roll into her mouth. “Sometimes you need to remember you’re more than just ‘mom’ or ‘wife,’ right? I get it. Being Cindy’s mom is the best thing that ever happened to me, but it’s nice to be just Mary sometimes, too.”
I couldn’t have said it better myself.
Weeks flew by, and suddenly Mary wasn’t just my trainer or my friend, she was family. Which is why, on that fateful Tuesday, I decided it was time for her to meet my actual family.
“Dinner at our place this weekend?” I asked as we cooled down after a particularly brutal HIIT session. “You can bring Cindy. Ethan would love a playmate.”
Mary’s face lit up. “Seriously? That sounds amazing! I’ll bring dessert. I hope your hubby likes apple pie!”
I spent all of Saturday in a cleaning frenzy, much to Dan’s amusement.
“Babe, it’s just dinner with a friend,” he said, watching me scrub the kitchen counter for the third time. “Not a visit from the Queen.”
I rolled my eyes. “I want everything to be perfect.”
Dan held up his hands in surrender, but I caught the smile on his face. He was happy for me, I knew. I’d been talking about Mary non-stop for weeks.
By six o’clock, the house smelled amazing (if I do say so myself), and I was putting the finishing touches on the table when the doorbell rang.
“I’ve got it!” I called out, smoothing my dress as I headed for the door. With a deep breath and a bright smile, I swung it open.
There stood Mary, looking gorgeous in a flowy summer dress, Cindy peeking out shyly from behind her legs. In Mary’s hands were a bottle of wine and what I assumed was the promised apple pie.
“Hey, you made it!” I said, ushering them in. “Come on in, let me take that.”
And that’s when everything went straight to hell.
I heard Dan’s footsteps behind me, probably coming to say hello. But the moment Mary’s eyes landed on him, it was like someone had flipped a switch.
The warm, friendly expression I’d grown so used to vanished, replaced by something I’d never seen before: pure, unadulterated shock, quickly followed by a rage so intense it made me take a step back.
The wine bottle slipped from Mary’s fingers, shattering on the floor. The sound seemed to snap her out of her trance, and suddenly she was moving, pushing past me with a fury that left me speechless.
“YOU!?” she screamed, jabbing a finger at Dan. “I’M CALLING THE POLICE!”
I stood there, mouth hanging open, trying to make sense of what was happening. Dan looked just as confused, his face pale as he held up his hands.
“I-I’m sorry,” he stammered, “but I’ve never seen you before in my life.”
Wrong thing to say. Mary’s eyes flashed dangerously, and for a second, I thought she might actually hit him.
“DON’T LIE!” she yelled, her voice cracking.
“This man,” she gestured wildly at Dan, “is Cindy’s father! He left us when I was pregnant, just disappeared! How dare you lie!”
The words hit me like a physical blow. I felt dizzy, like the floor was tilting beneath my feet. This couldn’t be happening. This was some kind of sick joke, right?
“Mary,” I managed to choke out, “what are you talking about? There has to be some mistake.”
But Mary wasn’t listening. She was digging frantically in her purse, muttering under her breath.
Finally, she pulled out her phone, swiping through it with shaking hands before shoving it in my face.
“Look!” she demanded. “Look at this photo and tell me that isn’t him!”
I stared at the screen, my heart pounding so hard I could hear it. The photo showed a younger Mary, beaming at the camera, her arm around a man who looked… God, who looked exactly like Dan.
Same eyes, same smile, even the same little scar on his chin from a childhood bike accident.
“That’s… that can’t be…” I whispered, looking between the phone and my husband. Dan’s face had gone from confused to alarmed.
“Rachel, honey, I swear I don’t know what’s going on,” he said, reaching for me. But I flinched away, my mind reeling.
Mary let out a sound somewhere between a laugh and a sob. “Of course, he’s denying it. That’s what he does, isn’t it? Run away and pretend it never happened?”
I felt like I was drowning, desperately trying to make sense of what was happening.
How could my Dan have abandoned a pregnant woman? But then… why would Mary lie about something like this?
“We need proof,” I heard myself saying, surprised at how steady my voice sounded. “A DNA test. That’s the only way to know for sure.”
Mary nodded fiercely, while Dan just looked shell-shocked. “Fine,” he said quietly. “If that’s what it takes to prove I’m telling the truth.”
The next few days were a blur.
I moved through life on autopilot. Dan tried to talk to me, to explain, but what was there to say? Either he was telling the truth and this was all some cosmic misunderstanding, or my entire marriage was built on a lie.
When the results finally came, I insisted we all be there. Dan, Mary, and me, sitting around our kitchen table like some twisted parody of a family meeting. My hands shook as I opened the envelope.
I don’t remember the exact words. Just that feeling of the world dropping out from under me as I read the results. Positive match. 99.9% probability.
Dan was Cindy’s father.
The silence that followed was deafening. I looked up to see Dan, white as a sheet, shaking his head.
“This is impossible,” he whispered. “I don’t… I don’t understand. I’ve never seen her before, I swear!”
Mary’s laugh was bitter. “Still lying, even now? God, you really are a piece of work.”
But something in Dan’s voice made me pause. The confusion, the genuine shock… it didn’t seem like an act. Could he really not remember?
As Mary gathered her things to leave, promising we’d talk more once everyone had time to process the news, I found myself standing in my living room, feeling like a stranger in my own life.
Dan hovered nearby, clearly wanting to comfort me but unsure if he should.
“Rachel,” he said softly. “I know this is… God, I don’t even know what this is. But I love you. You and Ethan, you’re my world.”
“Please, just… tell me what you need,” he said. “Tell me how to fix this.”
But I didn’t have an answer. What would you do if you found out the man you love had been hiding a secret this big? Could you ever trust him again? Or would you walk away from everything you’ve built?
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